How To Get What You Want

In my last Blog called The Set Up we talked about the importance of the basics in Aikido and communication and how we can achieve our goals by matching, blending or harmonising with the other person. Any grab or attempt to grab, any kick or strike requires a commitment of energy and momentum and that ...

The Set Up

At the start of every Aikido class there is an exercise called “Tai No Henko”. This literally means body change or body change direction. Redirection is used in many Aikido techniques thus Tai No Henko is an important lesson for beginners and always for more experienced practitioners as well. I have heard it said that all Aikido ...

Learning Martial Arts

Learning Martial Arts
Why does someone begin to train in Martial Arts? I suspect that some at least are looking for an answer to being attacked or bullied even, or perhaps they want to feel powerful. Well there is no answer, no magic bullet, there is only training and consequentially learning. Learning to acquire more skills and more ...

No Rapport

I was listening to the radio this morning about a patient visiting his GP. It wasn’t his usual GP and when he entered the room the Doctor was standing with his back to him and said nothing. Eventually he waved his hand in the direction of a chair and the patient sat down. The session ...

Modelling Koshi Nage

Modelling Koshi Nage
Modelling is the process of studying a piece of excellent behaviour so that you can do the same thing and teach it to others. The goal of the behaviour modelling process is to identify the essential elements of thought and action required to reproduce the desired response or outcome. The results of this analyses are ...

How to enjoy your public speaking

Apparently public speaking of any kind whether it is to large or small groups is the number one fear that people have. Here’s a way to deal with that feeling you called nervousness. First of all ask yourself what is making you feel nervous? My guess is you think about doing the talk by seeing ...

Is “It” a Thing or a Process?

What I mean by “it” is the thing I am referring to and what, I hear you cry, is the thing? This is the third piece about some part, in explanation, of my book, Mutual Mindfulness: amzn.to/30Sfv1R I have been listening to a lot of Podcasts recently or since there was a break in to ...

Disappointment Requires Adequate Planning

Disappointment Requires Adequate Planning
This is the second explanation of some NLP (NeuroLinguistic Programming) principles from my book “Mutual Mindfulness”, http://amzn.to/2LxVxFU  for the benefit of those who may not have any knowledge of NLP In NLP terms the business/activity of being a football fan/supporter, going to matches and suffering or enjoying the experience, is not a well formed outcome (goal) ...

Rub a Rock and Lose Your Nervousness

I don’t know if you listen to Podcasts but until a few months ago I didn’t even know what they were. Then one morning when I went out to my car I saw it had been broken into and my sound system had been stolen along with my Aikido weapons and walking boots. Pretty much ...

Manage how you feel – Freedom of Thought

Manage how you feel - Freedom of Thought
Back in the early 90s I was working as an assistant on NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner Courses. This was an unpaid role and was a way of getting experience working as a coach with the participants on the courses. I did this for about 15 years and worked with many NLP luminaries such as ...